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Some Different Thoughts On Love: The Kind That Loses Friends

From this time, many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him. – John 6:66

Everything Jesus did was out of his love. I’m assuming that’s true. If it is, then why does he often seem like He’s an ass? A few examples: he calls the teachers of the law and Pharisees “whitewashed tombs, ” covering up their inner deadness with a little paint (Mttw 23:27), “blind guides” (Mttw 23:16), “son of hell” (Mttw 23:15); he calls a pleading woman a dog (Mk 7:27); and gives teachings like John 6:26-66 that push people away. It would seem that everyone would love Jesus because everything He does is love because He is love, but a lot of people don’t care much for him. A lot of people don’t even like being around him. So many people hated him that they were able to influence a government to brutally executed.

I think we have to dispel one foolish idea that both seems sensible and wonderful and yet is totally false if the life of Jesus is an example. There’s an illusion present in our world that it is indubitable true that love draws people. It’s a really nice idea because we can think that if we just love people enough, in the right way, and for a long enough period, then they will be drawn to us. It’s simply not true. No doubt love can and often does draw people. But true love, Christlike love, often pushes people away. Read Scripture. It’s true no matter how much we want it to be false.

I do trust that every action of Jesus came from a heart that loved people and a wisdom that knew how to love people perfectly. I think that even while Jesus was in the middle of seriously pissing people off, he was loving them perfectly. Weird concept, huh? I think we are called to love in the same way that Jesus does. Selflessly, perfectly, and completely we are to love people in ways that both draw them toward us and the Messiah and in ways that may result in pushing them away from us. We first have to dispel the lie that love always makes people feel good and, more importantly, get over ourselves.

Most people I know are scared to love with the same audacious ferocity that Jesus loved with. Most people are scared that they will make those they love uncomfortable, hurt their feelings, or even makes the person angry at us. Often people are scared to truly love someone because they’re scared of losing the person’s friendship or losing their social status or level of social comfort. We’re so selfish we can’t love people with boldness by saying the hard things that may or may not have a positive result.

Get over yourself. And I’ll get over myself. The hardest way to love someone is to tell them where they are going wrong and how their life is something other than truly life. It takes so much love for the other person to risk a relationship and risk your own image to care about them by questioning the foundations of their lives. But people are dying out there. People are dying. They are living dead lives covered with a little bit of paint covering things up. It’s not love to pretend you only see the paint and don’t realize there is a corpse inside. Unless they deal with the corpse they can’t ever truly live. Love people so much that they see their heart and let God transform it. Love people so much that some people hate you. Love like Jesus.

  1. Jennifer
    February 19, 2010 at 12:10 pm

    Awesome. Thought provoking. Conversation inspiring. I can’t wait to chew on this one with a good friend. Now, to find one that I haven’t loved on too much… 😉

  2. February 23, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    I love you?

  3. Jeremiah
    February 24, 2010 at 12:59 am

    Thanks for the ? Mark zech. Hahaha.

    Glad thought was provoked Jenn. Did it lead to any fun conversations with friends.

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